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Audio: Can You Buy Hope?

yesterday I recorded a podcast #54 for my audio podcast subscription thingy.

This audio starts with a complaint I received by email.

“I have to ask, why are you SELLING sobriety? Why are you selling hope?”

Her comment was in response to a mini-sale I had on Saturday (which was only accessible to a very small segment of my mailing list as a test).

I’m sensitive to this subject of selling, and I’ve written about it here before.

So I’ve recorded a podcast about hope. Can hope be bought (or sold)? Do all of our accomplishments come from the inside … or does an outside tool help us get stuff done?

I talk about swallowing cement, Tour de France cyclists, being a dry drunk and sobriety itself as a tool.

I’ve posted the entire 15 minute audio here and it’ll be available for 48 hrs.

Click below to listen:

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click here to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

Here are some comments from podcast subscribers:

Rollerskate: “Therapy, personal trainers, coaches, feng shui experts who people pay to literally move their furniture around….all in hope of being happier…better. Just hoping that you’ll get better is of value. People earn money and spend money on things. Would it be better to keep spending money on sabotaging yourself (booze) or to buy a little bracelet [or audio] that empowers you to stay healthy? And your blog is free! Podcasts, okay, trinkets and treats okay. Worth paying for because hey, you’re working to encourage folks and they like and need it. So yay for you! And for your friends and all us supporters :-)”

Paulita: “I don’t know if you are selling hope Belle. You’re being a life-line, a listening ear (and you DO listen), a cheerleader, an encourager. That’s all free. The ‘glitter’ (the care packages, the podcasts, the jewellery) is optional and if I want I can treat myself to some of that and other things too (flowers, nice cups, chocolate – whatever I want). I’m learning to be kind to myself through you. I’m badly expressing what i want to say but I don’t think you are peddlin’ hope or selling sobriety. In fact I have MORE money since I ‘met’ you :)”

C: “I get what your emailer is saying. That the experience of hope, or growth, is something we have to accomplish and sustain on our own, so the idea that you are selling it is a bit of a low blow. I think a lot of self help programs prey on this. They diagnose your problem, and sell you the cure … I don’t think hope is what is being sold, exactly, and this is a fine line. I don’t recall having to buy anything to do your 100 day challenge. I chose to sign up for the podacast, etc, but it was not required. So are we talking about selling for actual money, or just the idea that you are speaking from a POV of authority on a subject, i.e. “selling” the idea?  Back to the point, I think what is being sold is encouragement and infrastructure. If people derive hope from that, that is their experience. And in my experience it is essential .. we all need help, all the time … But what is the greater good? Who knows… you just turn and ask your heart what is right. If you don’t want the service, don’t buy it. Being a public person, people will build up expectations around what you are doing, so it is good that your intentions and parameters are clear going in. Then people can decide for themselves. I could go on, and think I won’t.”

Clara: “Just listened to #54 and I say keep selling hope. Please. I feel connected to others because of this. This is the only place where someone knows what “day” I’m on, where someone knows i have quit drinking and I am changing. Where it feels like someone gives a damn.”

L: “You don’t just sell hope. You do sell cheerleading and you do it for a price I can afford – we could use more of that in the world. Your time and thoughtfulness is what we’re paying for and your experience; you think about all of us with your packages, podcasts.  The fact that you keep adding content that is relevant is really a special talent. Due to the stigma, some of us can’t talk to anyone about our habit for fear of losing our jobs/license if we were to discuss our effort to get healthier and overcome a chronic habit. Rehab is largely inaccessible to the majority of people financially/time wise, and I hate the idea of the AA crap, those are some really bitter bastards in general.  I was a numb-aholic too. Many of us in your audience can’t talk to our colleagues, nor our friends or family either b/c of the stigma and the collective acceptance of alcohol and the perception that we don’t have a problem, it is our secret battle.  No one else is there for me thru this thing.  No one.  Belle, this is the perfect tool for those of us quietly trying to get better! And it’s working. It’s like a miracle to me.  I can’t thank you enough, you make this affordable and my health and happiness (my old self) is worth more money than I could ever give you. Also, no one is forcing your audience to pay, they can just read the free blog or go do something else.”

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What do you think?

[Note: Please be kind and thoughtful. I will gently edit comments that attack; I'm interesting in having a conversation. No shittiness allowed :) can you believe shittiness isn't in spell check?]

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Happy Day 50 to Franny!

Happy Day 50 to Karen!

Happy Day 50 to Sandy!

Happy Day 100 to SusieQ!

Happy Day 100 to Lin!

Happy Day 100 to IrishDee!

Happy Day 100 to JenSep!

Happy Day 180 to Anastasia!

Happy Day 200 to JI!

Happy Day 600 to Amy!

Audio: Don’t Get Distracted

new audio recorded for my audio podcast subscription thingy.

Are you worried about finances? Fretting about decisions you made in the past. Anxious about shit that might happen in the future? This audio is for you.

[that sounds so much like a script for an infomercial! "got bugs, fleas, mice? this product is for you..."].

OK, really. This one is about how when we focus on shitty things, it distracts us from being happy.

Below you’ll find a 3.75 minute extract; the full audio is about 15 minutes long but this will give you an idea.

Click on button below to listen:

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click here to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

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Happy Day 50 to Brigid

Happy Day 50 to Aaron

Happy Day 50 to Jessica

Happy Day 50 to Niki

Happy Day 50 to Boots

Happy Day 50 to Dragonfly Wanders

Happy Day 50 to One Hundred

Happy Day 50 to Mona

Happy Day 100 to Kary

Happy Day 100 to Paulette

Happy Day 100 to Jaden

Happy Day 100 to AngieG

Happy Day 100 to Liam

Happy Day 180 to 365 Reasons

Happy Day 180 to Nikki

Happy Day 180 to Marge96

Happy Day 180 to Ella May

Happy Day 180 to ZB78

Happy Day 180 to Be

Happy Day 180 to Lisch

Happy Day 200 to Telling the Words

Happy Day 200 to Nutmeg

Happy Day 200 to Lawyer Wall

Happy Day 200 to Sherri

Happy Day 200 to Lurking with Intent

Happy Day 200 to MDL

Happy Day 200 to Carole

Happy Day 200 to Layla

Happy Day 200 to Libby

Happy Day 200 to ChoutyFruity

Happy Day 200 to Kristen

Happy Day 300 to Lucy

Happy Day 300 to Anne T

Happy Day 300 to TipTree

Happy Day 400 to BK

Happy Day 400 to Nezigirl

Happy Day 500 to Sunny Sue

Audio: This is what I deserve

Last night I recorded a podcast for my audio podcast subscription thingy.

Wanda sent me this email: “My husband has started saying WWBS? (What Would Belle Say).. Belle tells him he needs to relax more, have more treats, go to bed early, and not worry about getting things done…”

Wanda also emails me as she answers her own questions, imagining what advice I might give to her.

So I decided to do a podcast where I try to figure out what ‘belle’ would say to ‘me’…

… about how much sleep I get (or don’t get).

And holy good god i think it turns out to be about what I think I deserve.

I’ve prepared a 3 minute extract for you to listen to here. It starts playing from the beginning.

Click below to listen:

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click here to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

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Happy Day 50 to Hoops!

Happy Day 50 to GG!

Happy Day 50 to NicholasCharles!

Happy Day 100 to Ruth!

Happy Day 180 to FitFatFood!

Happy Day 180 to Heather!

Happy Day 180 to Alicia!

Happy Day 180 to moore!

 

Happy July 4th … an anti-wolfie audio

I’ve just recorded a special July 4th audio podcast for my podcast subscription thingy.

Someone asked me to record a message she could listen to when wolfie was breathing down her neck. I hope this does the job.

I mention “stay here” and “not today” and “every day forward…”

I have some advice on what to do if you’re on day 13 and you don’t magically feel better (yet).

And i talk about sober momentum.

I’m posting the entire audio here and it will be available for 48 hrs. Click below to listen:

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Happy Day 100 to OKGray!

Happy Day 180 to Kave!

Happy Day 180 to Santa Cruz!

Happy Day 365 to Durfee!

Audio: Sober Passions Part 4 (what next)

Here’s the fourth (and final) section of the ‘long’ audio i did on Sober Passions. I have divided the long audio into chunks, and today I’ve prepared Part 4 for subscribers.

The post about Part 1 is here. The post about Part 2 is here. The post about Part 3 is here.

Here’s the entire audio for Part 4 (it’s about 7 minutes long). In Part 4, we talk about the passion class that I’m developing. And the live participants on the call put in their 2 cents. Your feedback and ideas welcome, too.

Click below to listen:

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click here to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

 

Photos: Weather

Assignment #16: Weather (here are the photos!)

The project this time was to take a picture (or create some art) of something that could be called ‘weather’.

Thanks to everyone who sent in pictures, this post is now closed to new submissions.

If you want to join in for the next assignment, stay tuned.

 

This post is now closed to new submissions.

Audio: Sober Passions Part 3 (gather information)

Here’s the third section of the ‘long’ audio i did on Sober Passions. The post about Part 1 is here. The post about Part 2 is here.

In Part 3, we talk about how our first job is to be sober. And wolfie just loves to wind us up with a whole bunch of expectations, ideas on the ‘right’ way to do things.

I have divided the long audio into chunks, and today I’ve prepared Part 3 for subscribers. And I thought I’d post an extract here too.

In this this extract I’m talking with Matisse about her passion. Click below to listen:

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click here to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

 

Audio: Sober Passions Part 2 _ (And+And)

Here’s the second section of the ‘long’ audio i did on Sober Passions. The post about Part 1 is here.

In Part 2, we talk about how – as boozers – we often have very black and white thinking, all or nothing.

So if we could go into your brain and rewire just this one thing, it would go like this: It’s not either/or. It’s And+And.

I have divided the long audio into chunks, and today I’ve prepared Part 2 for subscribers. And I thought I’d post an extract here too.

This extract starts with me speaking to Trish about her passion. Click below to listen:

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click here to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

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Happy Day 50 to B!

Happy Day 50 to Snowflake!

Happy Day 50 to LeeleeNJ2014!

Happy Day 50 to hgeorge648!

Happy Day 50 to Bridget!

Happy Day 180 to SJP!

Happy Day 200 to Tammi!

Happy Day 365 to Ingrid!

Happy Day 365 to Sarita!

 

Audio: Sober Passions Part 1

Yesterday afternoon I recorded a special live call about Sober Passions for my audio podcast subscription thingy.

My intent was to make a lovely little podcast, and I thought I’d answer a few questions and it’d last about 20-25 minutes…

Ha! The full audio is more like 45 minutes, and thanks to the live guests, there is some really great questions, some breakthroughs, and some a-ha moments (for me!).

We talk about the clarinet, sobriety insurance, and I share some of my catering experiences and how baking relates to my sobriety.

So I’ve divided up the long audio into chunks, and today I’ve prepared Part 1 for subscribers. And I thought I’d post a 2-minute extract from Part 1 here.

Click below to listen:

listen2

click here to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

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Happy Day 50 to Foxie!

Happy Day 50 to Kelroy!

Happy Day 100 to Darcy!

Happy Day 100 to nantucket!

Happy Day 100 to hcasstevens!

Happy Day 200 to Shell Bell!

Happy Day 200 to Tuomas!

Happy Day 200 to RM!

Happy Day 300 to Jo!

Happy Day 700 to Sober Malarky!

‘Prelapse’ … what happens before drinking

Here’s an extract from episode #46 for my audio podcast subscription thingy.

So I figure we all know what relapse is. But I’ve discovered in talking with Team 100 members that there’s something else called “prelapse” that happens BEFORE drinking.

And if you can learn to see prelapse in advance, and recognize what it is, you can change what happens next.

This is a 3 minute extract that starts right at the beginning of this new podcast (the full audio runs about 15 minutes).

Click below to listen:

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click here to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

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Happy Day 50 to Battersea Park!

Happy Day 50 to Jenuhful!

Happy Day 50 to Welles!

Happy Day 50 to NoWine4Me!

Happy Day 50 to AnnieUK101!

Happy Day 50 to Gra!

Happy Day 50 to Deblilacs!

Happy Day 50 to Wanda!

Happy Day 50 to Chook!

Happy Day 50 to Sisty!

Happy Day 50 to Mallomar!

Happy Day 100 to Jlynn!

Happy Day 100 to Runsinmud!

Happy Day 100 to Janne!

Happy Day 100 to Sids!

Happy Day 100 to Dipz!

Happy Day 100 to Tanya!

Happy Day 100 to Hotto!

Happy Day 180 to Renee!

Happy Day 180 to JG!

Happy Day 200 to Janet!

Happy Day 200 Beach_Gurl!

Happy Day 365 to RunningFromTheBooze!

Happy Day 365 to BK!

Happy Day 400 to Elle!

Happy Day 400 to Leah!

 

 

 

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