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Audio: The High Jump and the Wheelchair

Episode #84 for my sober podcast thingy is about the high jump and a wheelchair. Yeah, OK. I know you don’t think these two things go together. But what if you wanted to do the high jump and you were in a wheelchair? Can it be done? I would have said no before. And I would have been wrong. Like I was wrong about so many things.

This audio mentions how Europe is like sobriety, how being out of debt can make you cry, and i tell you story of my friend with the unfailingly positive attitude. Grr.

Below I’ve posted a 2 minute extract from audio.

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Audio: Embrace the Lifestyle

just recorded episode #83 for my sober podcast thingy based on an email that Helena sent me about moderation and about living as a sober person. She really highlights the nonsense we have in our head (which i’m now calling the Wolfie Radio Station, on the AM dial, it’s W-O-L-F, broadcasting bullshit, 24/7, morning, noon and night).

In this audio, I read her letter, and then give you my ideas. Of which I have many!

Below I’ve posted a 2 minute extract from audio.

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Audio: Control

gabbygirl sent me a question, and in this podcast I try to answer it … this is episode #81 for my weekly sober podcast thingy.

is there a relationship between drinking and control issues (and anxiety). What are the things you can control, and the things that you can’t?

Below I’ve posted a 2 minute extract from the beginning of the audio. The entire full-length thing is 17+ minutes.

Please leave a comment after you listen to the extract and I’ll pick one comment to be my sober rockstar favourite comment of the day :)

You can listen to the extract here:

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Reminder that most of what i’m doing these days is going out by micro-email. Like my new secret writing project, the meetup in Paris, and daily photos. If you’re not on the micro-email list, you can add your name here.

 

sober treats

Thanks to the Tiny Gift Button

wall-lamps

nano-treat

Imported wall lamps (shipped from germany) for our fundamentally unfurnished apartment,
and a new MP3 player for listening to podcasts while running (this replaces my 9 year old shuffle)

 

 

Audio: Blowing a Fuse

so yesterday i had a super crappy day, too long, not enough accomplished, frustrating. and i went to bed at 6:45 pm and … well, I recorded podcast #80 for my weekly sober podcast thingy from under the covers.

I talk about frustration, safety valves, being too hard on ourselves, and am i the only person who hates carrying an umbrella?

Below I’ve posted a 5 minute extract from the beginning of the audio.

Where this audio begins, I’ve just walked for hours to find a clothing store, and it turns out to be the wrong store. And things get worse (rapidly) from there …

Please leave a comment after you listen to the extract and I’ll pick one comment to be my sober rockstar favourite comment of the day :)

Click the blue button to listen:

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Are you the type to feel rebellious, and say “Why can’t I drink? Other people can drink. I feel so pissed off that I have to give up drinking. I should be ALLOWED…”

Is that you?  (yeah, me too!)

Well, the pouting, the “why can’t I drink,” comes from focusing on not being ABLE to.
But when you flip it on its head, and you turn it into a decision, then you get to say:

“I don’t drink because it’s not good for me.
I don’t do cocaine either.
There’s a whole list of things I don’t ingest
just because other people do.
I do what’s best for me.
I also don’t drive without a seat belt
and I don’t walk in dog shit.
I am taking care of me.”

[Team 100 has 1866 people in it. You can join now — no matter what day of sobriety you’re on.]

What, you want more?

How about this:

Allie (day 38):This is the longest I’ve been sober in awhile … in the last 3 weeks, I managed a 2 week sober vacation, ran a 5K, avoided numerous drunk fights with fiancé, didn’t embarrass myself once, felt proud of myself, had hope and lots more stuff I can’t think of right now … I’m planning a trip for the end of the month with all of my savings!

You can sign up for the 100 challenge here. once you sign up, there’s a ‘welcome’ audio recorded when i was at the beach. completely with obnoxious bird and wave sounds :)

Audio: London Meetup 2014

Time to record an audio about the recent London meetup for my weekly sober podcast thingy.

So here’s what I know. We have more in common than we think. I’m reminded of this every time I do one of these lovely bakery meetups.

And I know now, in a more meaningful way, that we’re in a sober ‘community’, whether we realize it or not. The online sober thing? It’s real, it’s not just virtual.

Below I’ve posted a nearly 4 minute extract from the middle of the audio.

Please leave a comment after you listen to the extract and I’ll pick one comment to be my sober rockstar favourite comment of the day :)

Click the blue button to listen:

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Audio: Not the right time

You do this too, right? You think: “I can’t do this now because it’s not the right time.”

Like, I can’t hang the pictures yet because we haven’t picked out the furniture. I can’t start the tv show yet. I can’t start writing that new song yet. I can’t be sober now, it’s not the right time. and yet, we all agree that waiting for perfection means that nothing gets done.

You don’t have to know what’s happening next, you just have to start. You figure things out in motion.

I’ve just recorded an audio for my weekly sober podcast thingy. And it’s all about perfectionism and me being unable to find the right time to start.

Below I’ve posted a 3.5 minute extract from the middle of the audio.

Please leave a comment after you listen to the extract and I’ll pick one comment to be my sober rockstar favourite comment of the day :)

Click the blue button to listen:

listen2click here to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

 

do you show up with a straw or a shovel?

lushtreat

Thanks to the Tiny Gift Button

Used some tiny gift money to get myself some smell treats yesterday. Now i can’t stop sniffing my hair.

Unfortunately, though, I’ve fallen into the habit of receiving tiny gift money, I say ‘thanks”, and then I put the email into a folder called: “Donations Not Yet Spent.” Yes, sometimes I buy flowers, or fruit. But there are emails in this unspent folder dating back to January of this year…

It’s like I’m collecting the good will of the gifts, but not actually benefiting from them. It’s like I’m watching the balance go up, but am reluctant to spend it.

I’m the same way with furnishing this new (still empty) apartment. and it’s becoming distressing actually. Because I know what it is.

It’s an attitude of scarcity.

I have a thinking process where I feel that if i spend the gift money, then it’ll be gone, and then I will have an empty folder. Really? Is it better to see a folder of thanks than to benefit from the thanks? Is it better to collect instead of having experiences? That’s like watching your bank balance go up just for the fun of watching numbers, but for no actual gain or benefit or motive other than simply to watch the numbers…

And today i’ve just realized that I know this thing about scarcity already. And i know how to overcome it. I just recorded a Sober Rescue Audio about this idea of scarcity thinking. I was talking about it in the context of sober support … how we show up at the milkshake of sober support with only a straw, and we insist on taking tiny sips. We know that support is available to help us get/be/stay/enjoy being sober, and we don’t reach for it. Or we reach for it tiny little sips.

Instead, really, we should show up at the milkshake of support with a shovel. Take a bunch of support (i mean, it’s there for the taking). get ourselves solidly sober, and then ease up on the quantity of support later.

Here’s a clip from Rescue Audio #4:

And you know it makes sense to me when i say it in the context of sober support.

But when it comes to me looking at my paypal balance, I guess i still have some scarcity stuff going on.

I’ll keep thinking. i’m going to make a plan to spend the money in the folder. maybe i’ll buy the pink chair.

and i’m going to keep smelling my hair.

anonymous confession booth: things we can’t control

step right up. for one day only, i’m creating an anonymous sober confession booth on the subject of “things we can’t control”.

I want to focus on things we need to let go of. Like crazy in-laws, compulsive behaviours, and those people you are forced to visit where you’re afraid to eat in their homes because you’re not sure if you’ll get food poisoning or not. “I just scraped off the mould, they say.”

This came to me because of a one-on-one call i had with S. this morning (thanks!). We’re all carrying around this backpack of rocks of things we just need to let go of.

i personally hate dwelling in the past — unnecessarily. Yes, sometimes we have to excavate. But i don’t want to wallow. And there’s a very fine line between the two. And then there’s the shame. and the guilt. yeah.

So here’s the deal.

1. Post a comment below.

2. For this to work you MUST leave your name and your email and your website address BLANK in the comments form (if you forget, i’ll go in and delete that info manually). all comments are to be anonymous. one of the comments will be from me, you just won’t know which one.

3. I have no way of personally knowing who posts what. Promise.

4. In your comment, write two or three sentences (max.) about something that you’d like to stop in your life, some weight you’ve been carrying around, that being sober is going to help you let go of. For example, i’ll make one up: “I’d like to step out of the way of my crazy MIL and just recognize that she’s a flawed human and it’s my job to remove myself from her reach.” OR “I have been a compulsive laundry freak, the clothes I wore today must be clean and folded every night when I go to bed. Now that i’m sober I’m going to let that go. I don’t need to be in control of my laundry anymore. I’m going to let it go.”

5. Then take a second and post an anonymous ‘reply’ to ONE of the other comments already posted, and say something comforting, consoling, forgiving, kind.

i have a feeling that this will unfold in a lovely way. because you’re all lovely people. and we all have a backpack of rocks that we’d like to put down, right? What’s in your backpack?

PS. if your name/email automatically shows up when you start to enter a comment, you can manually delete them OR you can ‘log out’ of your blogging profile.

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